Sasha Bates

Sasha Bates | Languages of LossLanguages of Loss tells the story of how my life as a psychotherapist screeched to a shuddering halt when my husband and best friend, Bill Cashmore, died unexpectedly. It is my attempt to understand what happened to me in the aftermath.  Would all I had learned from my studies and work as a psychotherapist help me through the unimaginable and overwhelming pain of my grief? The resulting ‘conversation’ between my grieving self and my therapist self is part memoir and part reflection on the usefulness – and otherwise – of grief theories, and of psychotherapy in general. It’s also got some handy tips for those of you grieving, and for those of you trying to support a grieving friend. It even provides some possible answers to the dreaded “what can I do?” question.


In these horribly chaotic days of Covid-19 we are all suffering loss more than ever – the smaller yet far from insignificant losses – of certainty, jobs, lifestyles, physical contact – and sadly for some of us the all too real loss of loved ones. I hope that in its own small way Languages of Loss may bring some glimmers of hope in these dark times, and offer some guidelines as to how manage our collective grief.

Languages of Loss is published by Yellow Kite. You can buy it now from Hive –  a wonderful website supporting local bookstores – or from Amazon or Waterstones.


Cheltenham Wellbeing Festival

Cheltenham Wellbeing Festival starts this week. On Saturday May 9th, I am being interviewed by Dipti Tait about Languages of Loss, and about all the new losses we are all experiencing thanks to Covid-19.

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